What happens when you get what you’ve been asking for and you suddenly realize it isn’t quite what you’ve wanted?

Getting out of a long-term relationship was hard AF! During the entire relationship all I wanted was to be just that- off the market and in Love. I wanted a loyal man, a family (one day), a house…. & a partridge in a pear tree, THE WORKS. But then BOOM… the shit didn’t work out and here I am now.. S I N G L E.. (YAY me). Everyone tells you to start dating and the right guy will come along. Date for a purpose and find a guy who likes you more than you like him. Fall in love with that person & he will worship the ground you walk on (People literally told me this BS!). So, I did…. I Started dating, met some new people, started to figure my shit out and told myself “Okay, this isn’t so bad…You can do this”. We are going to find us a guy and we can still be married by 30.

Then I met him, the perfect gentleman. Great guy, respectful, fun, good head on his shoulders…so what was the problem? He wanted more from me. He wanted to hang out more, wanted something serious, more consistency, wanted me involved with his family….if it were up to him he would of proposed by Christmas even though we had started dating that fall. So again…. What was the problem?

The light bulb went off… Holy Shit I like being single. I like my space now; I am comfortable in the skin I am in more than I ever was. I enjoy coming home to peace & quiet, stripping as soon as I walk in the door, plopping on the couch and having a glass of wine all while watching Sex & the City Reruns. I am comfortable in my own peace and I do not think I am as interested in dating as everyone else wants me to be.

So, I say all that to say this…. Ladies & gentleman- enjoy being S I N G L E. Enjoy going out alone, enjoy meeting new people & learning new hobbies. Spend time in your own home reflecting on past relationships (there is a difference between reflecting and dwelling btw so do not dwell- or at least try not to). Enjoy yourself and maximize your singleness. Date or don’t date… but make the choice that works for you & not your friends, family or anyone else. Enjoy being single and understanding what your likes & dislikes are. Travel, lay around naked in the comfort of your own home, focus on your goals & focus on yourself.

Do You Boo!